We live in a time where we are constantly demanded of. Whether it’s the emails, WhatsApp messages or social media notifications, it can sometimes feel like we’re running at a million miles an hour in the constant battle to please everyone and ‘keep updated’.
But I know for me personally, I can find all these demands wearing, and struggle to find time for myself, let alone for my own partner.
At the moment both the boy and I are starting our own businesses, which means we often have evenings where we’re hunched over a computer screen – romantic right?
But as we’re both passionate about what we’re doing we know that this is necessary, and we actually love what we do. So while to some this may seem like a rather sad existence, to us it’s an exciting time to be able to support each other on our individual journeys.
In fact, I’m constantly thanking my lucky stars that I have a partner who is so supportive of my work and the way I throw myself into everything all at once.
Of course, the truth is, we do set aside an evening a week to spend quality time with each other.
Thursday nights are our dedicated date nights, and a few weeks ago we met in Peterborough for a date night at the new Krispy Kreme store.
After all a full on day in London with a client, I was in desperate need of a sugary fix and as we hadn’t yet ventured to the new store in Queensgate, I thought it was about time we gave it a whirl.
For us, it doesn’t matter where our date nights take place. It could be at a new restaurant or it could just be going for a leisurely stroll, as long as we’re not connected to the internet or sat in front of a screen then it’s good for us.
When you think of ‘date nights’, you might imagine a married couple with children who are trying to rekindle the romance. But this stereotype is a damaging conception to all of us who are happily coupled up, because the fact is, no matter what stage you’re at in your relationship, it’s essential that you continue to dedicate time to each other.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s extremely important to do things with others and to have your own path in life, but if you want to continue to love, appreciate and respect your partner for who they are completely, then you need to give them quality time.
Communication breakdown is the first crack to appear in a broken relationship, and eventually, the void becomes so big it is irreparable. Trust me – I’m speaking from experience on that one.
So, while you may scoff at our eagerness to dedicate Thursday’s to each other when we’re technically still young and free-ish, all I can say is, this works for us and enables us to touch base each week no matter the chaos that surrounds us.
And in case you were wondering yes, we basically had dessert for dinner at Krispy Kreme, because the rules are there to be broken.
Do you have a weekly or monthly date night?