The other day I got myself into a real tizz. You know, one of those days where everything feels like it’s going wrong so you evolve into an emotional, frustrated wreck. Yeah, that’s the one. But rather than just allow myself a day off, I judged and chastised myself for being in such a state, telling my inner self that she was being ridiculous and had to snap out of it.
It wasn’t until my partner got home and told me that I should go easy on myself, that I realised how harsh and judgemental I’d been on myself, but also on my own emotions.
The thing is, while messages of positivity and happiness are great, we should also embrace the beauty of all the emotions we hold, even if they don’t feel great at the time.
‘Grey emotions’, as I call them, get a seriously bad rep in the press, it’s all about ‘Happy’ right now. But that doesn’t mean we should try to avoid the all the others like the plague – they are the beautiful spectrum that we get to experience; incredibly more than any other being on this planet.
A great example of this that I stumbled across recently was the animated film Inside Out. I had never watched it before and we decided to watch it one evening when we had the little one over.
I could immediately relate to it, because throughout the whole film Joy is trying so hard to keep everything happy and positive, that she forgets there is a need and an unusual kind of beauty in sadness, pain, and worry. Without all of these emotions, we would be robots, not feeling anything.
What I realised, is that I was feeling these emotions for a reason. And rather than pushing them away I should be trying to understand why they are there and where they have come from.
We have to be honest with ourselves that ‘Happy’ isn’t going to turn up every day, and sometimes, Pain, Sadness and Worry need their limelight too.
What we shouldn’t fear is being overwhelmed by these emotions, and instead learn to embrace them and know that they make the journey of life memorable.
There are highs and lows on this rollercoaster of life, and we should be embracing each one of them.
The next time I have an off day, I know I’m going to invite all those emotions in like an old friend and see what it has to teach me. I won’t judge or criticize it, I will just let it come and then let it go.
If you find yourself in a similar state, don’t push those emotions out the back door, see where they take you.
Just like the sun shines in the day, the stars shine in the night. Both dark and light have their beauty.