At the beginning of this year I made a dramatic life choice.
One that not only turned my own world upside down, but others too.
It wasn’t an easy choice, and it was by no means lacking in thought for anyone else involved.
Yet when I made the decision and told friends and family, the reaction was as mixed as a bag of liquorice all sorts.
But putting aside the judgement, the upset and their confusion about my choice, when all’s said and done, what annoyed me above all in this situation was people’s attempt to undermine how I felt and the decision I was making.
This didn’t just anger me, it extremely pissed me off to put it politely.
I’ve always known my own mind from a young age, in fact I can remember the very first time standing up for my own decision when teachers at my college were insistent that I should go to university on my good grades.
I knew that it angered my teacher that out of many, I had the opportunity to get into places others would never be able to, but I knew deep down that I did not want the university life.
I was hungry to start my career and ready to step into the world of work.
If it hadn’t of been for this decision I wouldn’t have the career I have now.
So you see it’s always been in me to know what is best for me and my life. And we all do.
Deep down we know when our instincts are telling us if something isn’t right.
Yet here I was telling people about MY decision, and MY choice, and they were determined to pull my strength away from me. It felt as though I was constantly trying to defend my decisions.
Some telling me that I was perhaps mentally ill and acting like a ‘sillly girl,’ and others telling me that I would regret this for the rest of my life.
Well for starters, I don’t think I can get away with being a silly girl at 27, and secondly, who are they to tell me if the choice I have made is right or wrong?
They do not walk in my shoes or live my life.
At first many of these comments hurt me, as I felt out of the people who knew me best, they should surely know that I am someone who doesn’t take decisions lightly, nor have I ever been one to change my mind like the wind.
Every decision even up until my 27th year has been made for a reason, and I stand by each and every one of them whether they be right or wrong.
But what I will never have is someone tell me that I do not know what is best for me.
Despite the anger that’s been harbouring inside me about these comments, I’ve come to the realisation that I should perhaps just pity those that feel the need to undermine others, because maybe they’re not so strong minded as they believe themselves to be?
Change scares people and so do strong minds, so maybe my decision was a cataclysmic disaster to others, but at least I will always be thankful that I’ve been equipped with a strong enough mind not to have my decisions influenced by others. Otherwise who knows where I would be?
Don’t ever let anyone tell you your choices are wrong, we all have that gut instinct that guides us, so trust it.
You may not agree with the choices people make, but that never gives you the right to persuade them otherwise.