Last month I split up with Facebook.
Nope, it wasn’t a cautious ‘de-activate’, and I might be back if I change my mind; it was a deadly serious, no-fucks-given, goodbye, I want you out of my life.
And wow does it feel good.
I had been off the platform and in-active since February. But full-scale deletion is an extreme – always to be aired with caution. After all, I soon found out that it meant my Facebook messenger account would also be deleted, which then meant my Dad who lives in Canada had to find a new way to get hold of me. Oops!
Probably should have thought about letting him know beforehand, as well as those friends who think I’ve blocked them but … you live and learn.
Anyway, aside from a few glitches of communication with the parents, my Facebook free life couldn’t feel more fantastic. I no longer find myself scrolling through crap in those moments of boredom, or get caught up in the drama of some deciding to use Facebook as a form of therapy. Because let’s be honest, we all know someone who does that!
In my eyes, Facebook is full of total bullshit.
You’re either on there to stalk other people (you know who you are), or on there to show-off to the world so you can feel good about your own life. And personally, I don’t need to do either.
At times I used to find myself constantly scrolling through my Facebook timeline being inundated with total inconsequential rubbish – that at the end of the day made no difference to my life at all. Except that fact that I would feel irritated with myself for wasting my time on there.
Minutes and hours wasted from our deep love of knowing what’s going on in everyone else’s’ lives. That is time I will never get back!
Don’t get me wrong; social media has its place. Awkwardly enough it’s part of my job. But I found it taking over my life.
Conversations started to begin with “Did you see on Facebook?”… or “Oh yeah I saw you mentioned that on Facebook.” Where do you go from here?, how do you continue a conversation when Facebook has pretty much killed it?
Last year Mark Zuckerburg revealed that according to Facebook data the average user spends 40 minutes per day on the platform.
I can think of so much more I could do in 40 minutes than writing about how great my lunch was or posting a selfie of every single destination I visit. But hey, each to their own. We all have our vices.
However, the true troubling facts aren’t that we spend so much time on there; it’s the impact that social media is beginning to have on our well-being.
This year, researchers at the University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine conducted a study on the impact that social media has on our moods.
The research determined that the more time young adults in particular spent on social media, the more likely they are to be depressed.
Because we’ve all become so obsessed with making our lives look like some kind of billboard for life. It’s our versions of The Trueman Show. A creepy, idealist version of what we want our lives to look like. And we’re the ones orchestrating it!
‘Idealisation’ is rampant amongst social media users, and so many of us fall prey to our own propaganda.
Life isn’t perfect in anyway, yet we are all guilty of fuelling this desire for making our lives look great to everyone else.
Well, the hard truth is, it isn’t, and I’m no longer interested in being a part of it.
If you’re looking for a new year’s resolution for 2017, I would highly recommend pulling yourself away from the black hole of Facebook.
Just like a crappy boyfriend, it takes all your time, gives you nothing in return and will never leave you satisfied.
For those of you brave enough, here’s the guide I used to go rogue. Welcome to the good life!