I like to think I live my life in a pretty authentic manner. I don’t pretend to be anyone else; I don’t pretend to like things just because their ‘on trend’, and I don’t surround myself with people who I wouldn’t jump in front of a bus for.
But the truth is we live in a world that is led by image, and even those who think they are authentic can sometimes come across as being false.
I see it all the time; work colleagues kissing each other’s arses when I know behind the scenes there’s an almighty feud going on. Relationships that look picture perfect, when in reality neither lifts their head from their phones in each other’s company. And let’s not forget the biggest gripe I have online – parents pretending they’re the most amazing parents when I know the child gets passed around like a hot potato.
It’s sad, and sometimes I just wish there was a bullshit button on social media. We don’t need to pretend to be living a perfect life; we should just be living.
Life doesn’t come with a filter. It’s messy and ugly, and we all have to go through trials and traumas that we don’t openly share because it wouldn’t ‘look good’.
When I see people being false, it makes me pity that they feel the need to put out perfection. Because perfection doesn’t exist, and the only people they are really fooling is themselves.
If people put as much effort into making their reality great, rather than just pretending it is, perhaps they might find that they get more fulfilment out of their lives.
Not only that but when you’re true to who you are on social media and what’s going on in your life, you may find others who are going through similar situations and find a support network you never knew existed. That’s one thing social media can actually be pretty great at, bringing people together.
Of course, it is one thing to put on a façade online, but another to completely remove people from your life because they don’t match-up with the image that you’re putting online.
Unfortunately, a dear friend of mine was ‘de-friended’ after supporting a friend through a break-up. When the couple got back together, she was removed from their lives as if she had never been there. Clearly having a reminder that their relationship wasn’t always perfect, was too much for them to handle.
It might look picture perfect online, but I’m sure it doesn’t feel perfect in the real world.
Whatever I put out in the world, I take responsibility for, and always have convictions for my actions. Even the things that others would see negatively.
Nothing in my life is perfect, and I certainly hope it doesn’t come across that way in the messages that I put out. I have a continued attitude of gratitude, and even when I’ve had a shit day at work, or something has upset me, I take a step back and think about what it’s taught me.
I do this because it’s the real me, and if you were to come up to me on the street, I wouldn’t be any different to what you see online.
Take a minute to think about what you’re putting out there and question if you’re being true to yourself.